Jason J
When my therapist asked me what I wanted most from my neglectful parents. I told him all I wanted was for them to hug me close and say they’re sorry. To tell me that they tried and even though they messed up they can acknowledge that they’re human too.
My therapist leaned forward, looked me right in my eyes and said “I’m so sorry (my name) that will never happen.”
Stayed with me for awhile because it was the sudden realization that my parents will never change unless they wanted to themselves. Something I subconsciously knew my whole life but I didn’t want it to be true, growing up thinking that ‘today will be different’ even though it was always the same.
Even though it tore me it was eventually helped me accept them for who they are and made going NC so much easier. Because I don’t see them as Mom and Dad anymore and I haven’t since that day.
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